I had a previous post about being bothered by emotional energy left on furniture and how the current furniture in the nursery for my son was causing environmental issues for me. Well, after more discussion with my husband and making it clear to a non-empath how that furniture made me feel, he agreed to offer it back to his ex to take to furnish their son’s room at his mom’s house.
My suspicions that she was bothered by the nursery furniture being used by me for my baby with her ex-husband was more than confirmed. Even though she had refused it several times, DH offered it back to her again to use in their son’s room in his house. He really didn’t think she would take it due to no room and the fact HE picked it out and HIS parents bought it as a gift. However, she jumped on it like a turkey vulture to some roadkill. I was rather surprised that she didn’t at least pretend momentarily to not want it back. Oh well. This solves several problems and hopefully everyone can be happy.
My nearly 4-year old stepson has never had his own room. He still sleeps in his mother’s room at their house (please don’t get me started on my feelings regarding this) but at least at this point has his own bed. Part of our goals this summer is to get him into his own room (bye-bye my nursery sanctuary) so that he can have his own room when he goes back to his mom’s house in August. Having “his” furniture back might help with continuity. I get to pick out my son’s furniture that can be 100% his with no other emotions attached…nor obligation. And EX can quit filling her head with evil thoughts about me due to me using the furniture. It is a win-win all around. Chalk one up for the stepmom.
